• The Ultimate Girl Boss: The Hidden Strengths of a Stay-at-Home Mom

    If you stay home with your children, then those hidden strengths of a stay-at-home mom are the qualities you’re continually developing.

    In a world where careers and professional achievements often take center stage, the invaluable contributions, and hidden strengths of stay-at-home moms often go unnoticed. So let’s take a minute to explore the ultimate girl boss: the Hidden strengths of a stay-at-home mom.

    These incredible women exhibit a remarkable combination of skills and qualities that make them the ultimate girl bosses. They manage a household.  Of course, they nurture their children.  Stay-at-home moms embody the qualities of multitasking, resilience and more.

    When I say ‘those moms‘ or ‘they‘, I mean about you and me.

    My day looks like this sometimes and that’s okay, because then I overcome, just like you.

    Ultimate Girl Boss, hidden Strength of Stay at home momsSo we need to explore and celebrate the hidden strengths of the stay-at-home Girl Boss moms who run their homes well.

    I want to shed light on your extraordinary abilities. We have a profound impact on our families and society.

    Here are 5 qualities that the Ultimate Girl bosses develop.

    I describe the characteristics in an idealistic way.

    We are all on a journey to perfecting our craft, so be encouraged that you are in this amazing group of ever-improving Stay-at-home moms.

    1. Multitasking: Mastering the Art:

    Stay-at-home moms are true multitasking maestros. You seem to effortlessly juggle a myriad of tasks. Also simultaneously and seamlessly transition from one role to another throughout the day. Whether it’s meals, household chores, assisting with homework, or organizing family schedules.  Your ability to handle multiple responsibilities with grace and efficiency is awe-inspiring. Your days are a constant dance. You expertly prioritize and manage your time, ensuring that every aspect of your family’s needs is attended to.

    2. Resilience in the Face of Challenges:

    Stay-Girl Boss, Hidden Strengthsat-home moms encounter many challenges; both expected and unexpected, daily. Oh, those sleepless nights with newborns. Possibly toddler tantrums or teen conflicts, and yet you display unwavering resilience. You tackle obstacles head-on. 

    I know you must find creative solutions; somehow maintaining a positive attitude in the face of adversity. You learned to adapt to changing circumstances, handle stressful situations, and find strength in moments of vulnerability. That is a testament to your resilience.

    Making the most of baby time combined with getting things done is a decision we must make.

     

    3. Leadership and Decision-Making:

    Stay-at-home moms are the CEOs of their households. Taking charge of managing family affairs, making important decisions, and ensuring the well-being of their loved ones is your job. Girls, you possess exceptional leadership qualities, as you guide and nurture your children. Moms instill values and teach life skills. Your ability to make thoughtful decisions, and create a supportive and loving environment demonstrates your natural leadership capabilities.

    4. Resourcefulness and Problem-Solving:

    Stay-at-home moms are experts at finding creative solutions. You make the most of the available resources; from repurposing household items for crafts and activities to budgeting and finding ways to save money, you exhibit impressive resourcefulness. Your problem-solving skills are honed as you tackle everyday challenges, seeking innovative approaches to overcome obstacles and create a nurturing and stimulating environment for your families.

    5. Emotional Intelligence and Empathy:

    Stay-at-home moms have a sixth sense of emotions. You know when a hug is needed, when to have a heart-to-heart chat, and when to break out the ice cream for movie night. Your emotional intelligence is off the charts. As moms, create a safe space where family members can freely express themselves. We all navigate the rollercoaster of feelings with finesse, fostering open communication and unwavering support.

    Through all of your many responsibilities, managing your home, many of you are working and running businesses as well.

    You deserve the admiration for all you do. I often felt that others appeared to be doing the mom business so well. Sometimes I felt like I wasn’t measuring up. So if you have ever felt this way, please re-read this post and know that if you’re trying your best, then bravo to you. Look at everything you do.

    drawing, coloring, tracing activity book for children

    Try my cute series 5 of children’s books: color together, do puzzles, learn letters, & trace. They are easy to bring when you travel and children find them fun and great for learning a lot of skills at a young age.

    Hidden strengths stay at home moms, business girl boss

    Stay-at-home moms are our society’s unsung heroes and the ultimate girl bosses. Your hidden strengths, from multitasking and resilience to leadership and empathy, shape your families’ lives profoundly. Let me celebrate and honor all of you remarkable women.

    Girl Bosses embody the true essence of strength, love, and dedication as you navigate the challenging and rewarding journey of being a stay-at-home mom.

  • Kids Need Cursive Writing for Strong, Powerful Brains

     

    Kids need cursive writing for strong, powerful brains.

    Why would the ‘experts’ suggest that cursive writing in school is unnecessary?

    Do your best strong brainsThere’s such strong evidence that the connection between the stimulation of your fingertips and the pathways to your brain is so important. I will tell you compelling reasons why I believe cursive writing is imperative for children in school.

    As a homeschool mom, I have slipped up in placing a strong emphasis on cursive writing. In school, my girlfriends liked to write their letters beautifully. And most of the boys were happy with scribbling their letters, just to get the job done.

    Since I have six boys and three girls, I didn’t push cursive writing skills. The funny thing is that my dad, a teacher all of his life, had beautiful handwriting and he put great importance on writing with excellence.

    Brain issues, Alzheimer’s, and Dementia are in the news every day. Experts say that we have a chance to beat brain degeneration, or at least slow the process if we start early. Certainly, we must make a conscious effort to eat better, exercise, and have a deep faith early in life to stay healthy and strong and ward off these horrid diseases.

    Scientists say that there’s a massive connection between your fingertips and your brain.

    If you play the piano, or knit, or do any frequent activity involving your fingertips, the benefit to your brain is significant. I’m winning there because I play the piano and I knit. My fingertips are busy!

    Even though we’ve made these discoveries about the connection between the brain and the fingertips, what is our school system teaching our children? Are they leading the way to better brain health? No!!

    They have stopped teaching children cursive handwriting in most schools. “We don’t need to bother,” they say. “We’ll soon be just voice texting anyways.”

    Handwriting -think Calligraphy- is Art!

    Strong Brains in Children, cursive writingOf all the skills you can master, the easiest and most consistent activity you can do is handwriting. It’s a skill and it’s beautiful.

    Wait, you say! We don’t need to take the time to learn that stuff. Why don’t we Just just copy and paste?

    We have not left the ‘real’ world yet, people.

    Cursive writing is an art and a way to express yourself with design as well as the actual text.

    According to Professor Virginia Berninger, University of Washington, hands have a unique relationship with the brain when it comes to composing thoughts and ideas. She has studied children in grades two, four, and six.

    Her study revealed that the children wrote more words, wrote them faster, and expressed more ideas when writing essays by hand versus with a keyboard.

    There is a whole field of research known as “Haptics.”

    The study includes the interactions of touch, hand movements, and brain function. Cursive writing helps train the brain to integrate visual and tactile information and fine motor dexterity. Cursive writing trains the brain to have so much more than communicating strictly with words on a page.

    Cursive writing, use hands strong brain in childrenA lot is going on in that process, and the practice is keeping our brains strong, including the interactions of touch, hand movements, and visualization.

    School systems are driven by ill-informed ideologies, by no longer requiring students to learn cursive writing. They dismiss it as an ‘ancient skill’. They seem obsessed with only testing knowledge putting value on test results rather than training kids to develop a better capacity for acquiring the knowledge.

    I talk a lot about the value of reading. Reading and writing develop the capacity, not memorization and copy/paste!

     

    Here’s a great option that you can use at home for your little ones. Take matters into your own hands:

    – Grab a copy of Cursive Handwriting for Kids, and help your little one’s brain to be strong.

    –  Help them learn to play a musical instrument has massive benefits to our brains.

    – Find an area of art they might enjoy (woodworking, crafting, sewing, etc)

    Everybody has paper and pencils. Not everybody can afford a computer for their kids—but maybe such kids are not as deprived as we would think.

    I created 5 of the cutest little series of books for very young children.

    drawing, coloring, tracing activity book for children

    Each book is dedicated to a simple activity:

    1. ABC’s

    2. Beat the Mazes

    3. Word search, writing words, tracing

    4. Dot to Dot 

    5. Coloring very cute little animals

     

     

    Finally, please tell me what you think.

    I believe that it is my responsibility to educate my children. It is up to me and not the teachers to ensure that their education is complete. I have had my kids in school and I have homeschooled, and I know that the buck stops here…at my doorstep. I must be in charge of making sure they learn everything that I feel they need to learn and not depend completely on their teachers.

    Brain imaging studies reveal that multiple areas of the brain become co-activated during the learning of cursive writing.

    Here are 7 compelling reasons:

    Consider the value of implementing cursive writing into your children’s education:

    1.  It has a calming effect.
    2.  It coordinates the left brain and right brain.
    3.  It boosts cognitive skills.
    4.  It inspires creativity.
    5.  It sharpens aging minds.
    6.  It improves memory.
    7.  It uses more of your brain.

    This is not a rant. It is a reminder to myself to do my best for my kiddos, even if I fail because my heart is drawn to them.

     

  • Love Like a Mom is So Special

    Something is amazing about being a mother and experiencing having children. That’s why I titled this post, “Love like a Mom is So Special”. Only a mom has a unique type of love for her children.

    When you have a baby, it’s the most life-changing, dramatic thing that will ever happen to you. Once you have a baby, there’s no going back – you are a Mom! You will love like a Mom. As a Mom of 9, I understand what you’re going through. To love like a mom is special because it’s an irreplaceable relationship.

    Have you ever wondered, “Can I be a great mom?” From the moment you find out you’re pregnant, your emotions will go on a wild roller coaster ride like no other.

    Love llike a mom is special, precious, unique and many more

     

     

     

    I made this short list to describe the love of a mother and the words that describe her special kind of love. This list should be called ‘Note to Self’ – Ideal qualities of the perfect mom.

     

     

     

     

     

    I want to help you navigate your baby world, sympathize with your good and bad feelings, and encourage you on your journey of raising little people into successful big people. I’ve learned some great tips from my own experience. Sometimes I got things right on the first try, and sometimes it took trial and error. Occasionally, I got it all wrong. (sad face)

    “Life doesn’t come with a manual; it comes with a Mother.”

    I love this quote because it’s mostly true. But, I had my manual: all the training from my mom that I observed and subconsciously absorbed over the years. What a blessing she was to me. It was a resource I could access whenever I needed it, stored in the back of my brain.

    My mom was very skilled and competent in so many areas. I used to worry about cleaning my house perfectly before she visited, thinking she’d tell me how to do it better. The funny thing is, after all my worry, she didn’t criticize my methods. I just assumed her ways were the gold standard.

    Looking back over the years, and watching my mom manage our household, one thing stands out: sacrifice. She sacrificed for her children. She gave up her time, her energy, her money, and her love.

    If she didn’t love us, she would never have sacrificed so much for us.

    Life does come with a manual: the Bible. But God graciously gave us mothers too.

    If you were blessed with a mom who loved and cared for you, you have the best example to follow. If you didn’t have the best mother situation, you can still be an awesome mom and the best gift to your children.

    We were the first couple in our family and friend group to have a baby. I didn’t get to watch moms my age raising their children. I couldn’t learn great tips or lessons from their trials or triumphs.

    Having a sweet newborn and still trying to keep up our social schedule was quite a challenge. I was barely 20, so there was lots of fun to be had with my friends, even though I was a new mom. We managed to go out with friends, have some fun, and still care for our new baby. It was just more tiring than before baby 😉

    I’ll never forget my dear Mom-in-law offering to let me go upstairs and rest. She saw that my late nights and early baby mornings were catching up with me. She understood, being a mom of eight babies herself. Then she said something I’ll never forget: “Just take the baby with you upstairs and have a nap on the bed.”

    I remember thinking, are you a crazy lady? It’s because of this baby that I need the rest. How can I take the cause of my sleeplessness with me and get any rest?

    Now I get it! Fast forward a few years and a few more babies, a nap with my littlest baby would be a dream. I’d love to quietly go upstairs, cuddle my newest newborn, and have that nap, free of other toddlers and household responsibilities. It’s amazing how time and experience change your perspective.

    I’ve been asked a thousand times, “How do you manage with 9 children?” I tell them I grew into it, one baby at a time.

    How many children do you have? Tell me a fun memory you had when you were a brand-new mom.